This segment has been years in the making. Trial and error. Observations. Arguments. Making her cry out of joy. Making her cry because she hates the air I breathe. Me crying because of the centrifugal force of the knee full throttled into the pelvic region. Things of that nature. This isnt a groundbreaking discovery. Its through conversation, research, and real life experience. From the Couture Group (and their aching testes) to you..
Imagine. Just for a second. You strip away the face of a woman (no Dahmer). The outer layers. The parts we stare at. The hair. The essence. And you're left with this creature. It looks like a crumpled napkin. But its beating and its pulsating with these feelings, and this raw emotion, and this need to connect and communicate with someone or something. Hold on to that image and proceed.
It has been scientifically proven that women use the Left Hemisphere of their brain more than men do. It just so happens that side controls language and detail. Talking, communiciating, and paying attention very intensely to every circumstantiality.
Research has also found that their emotional responses also involve the left hemisphere, which explains the female need to verbalise emotions. The same studies have shown that males have greater activity in the right hemisphere when experiencing emotion, which is related to physical response. This explains why men don’t understand the female need to go on for an excruiatingly long time about their feelings and why women don’t understand the male need to slap someones face off their face when they get pissed off.
Its Just About Connection, Man...
Its this thing called face value. Its when someone says something and basically, its taken as literal as possible. Women really dont have a certain reason to talk to you. No goal, no alterior motive, just plain and simply they want to connect with you. Not saying that some are'nt conniving and deceitful, but if you havent sensed the invisible horns and had that little intuition of heartbreak, take her at face value..
What you probably shouldnt do: Not say anything.. If she's trying, try.
What she digs: A listening ear..
You'll Never Really Know How Mad She Is..
In order to keep the peace, women often don’t express how much they want to ice you in your sleep. They don’t stand up for themselves (in some cases), and they downplay the severity of their dissatisfaction. Now this in no way speaks for all women. Oh, you have some that let you in on EVERY piece of their disgust. But a majority do downplay how upset they are and just say "Okay" in that high pitch sing song voice. You know exactly what im talking about..
What you probably shouldnt do: Create an atmosphere or enviroment where she cant feel safe or be able to express her dissatisfaction properly. Look, if anybody has figured out how to do this, email me. Im still trying to figure that out.
What she digs: Assume that when she says that she's alright but she still looks upset, then she is still upset. If you take the time to try to get a woman to say what she really feels, that attempt alone will actually make her feel better because she knows you cared enough to try. Even though you may not care for the answer.
What she cant for the life of her get: That when a woman is upset and says she is fine to avoid a messy confrontation, men take her answer literally and leave it at that. Its how we do. Not every chick is worth this "extra mile", but one you're kinda digging may deserve a little more attention.
Women Solve Their Problems Audibily..
Guys are more visually inept to solve a problem. Thats why we have more men scientists and mathematicians than women. We see the formula in front of us..boom. The Theory of Relativity. Women like to hear themselves solve problems. It helps them get clear on whats going on inside them because they may not be able to figure it all out with the hormones and emotions that take up the same brain. So when she talks about her issues to herself, she's not (that) crazy..and oh yeah, leave her alone.
What you probably shouldnt do: Try to figure out and help solve whatever issue she's working on. Its the equivalent of you deciphering a lengthy logarithmic math problem, and someone comes and erases mid-way through because they want to help..
What she digs: You being there and just listening
What she doesnt get: That men are goal and solution-oriented and that women are process-oriented; i.e. that the process of conversation is not what men enjoy but getting to the meat of the issue and thats it. Not preparing and garnishing the damn thing.
Its ALL About The Details..
From prior experience we as young men, may have been hurt. Lets keep it all the way funky. We were open like Wimbeldon and with the time and things you shared with this female, she turned around and did something so vile and mean spirited that you vowed never again will this happen to you. Ever. Inevitably the next female that wants to get to know EVERYTHING about you can't get past that wall because you're thinking "Nah, she's tryna play me." But naturally a woman’s interest in the details about your life is not an attempt to interrogate you or invade your privacy. She just wants to get to know you in high definiton detail. Thats just the way they're wired. On the other side of the spectrum their habit of sharing the details of their life isn't an attempt to make you her woman man friend. The "friend zone" does exist, but listening to her doesnt place you there. Agreeing with her every whim does. Rather, like the first thing we said she's trying to connect.
What you probably shouldnt do: Telling her the details don’t matter, that they’re nosey, that she's interfering and one word answers e.g. ‘fine’, ‘ok’, ‘good’, ‘dunno’ is like a slap in the face. Oh my goodness if there is anything you ever dont say, dont say these. They hold on to it. Because we're not as fine tooth combed equipped, we wont even know why 2 weeks later she's spazzing.
What she digs: Recognition of details. Listening to theirs and in return giving them some of ours. She honestly doesnt think you'll give that much to begin with so anything will make her smile.
Couture Group Tip: Women love impromptu praise especially if you add details e.g. “I like that dress, it makes your eyes really bright” or “That was a really good thing you did, I especially liked the way you…” It shows you pay attention.
What she cant seem to grasp: That men just aren’t concerned with details. So when details are'nt openly given (i.e. that broad from the past) she automatically thinks you have something to hide. There's a thin borderline between mysterious and shady. The amount of detail you give places you in either category..
Women Use Talking to Clear Tension
What we call harping on the same issue over and over again is actually her way to clear the air like Ionic Breeze Quadra (its a humidifier guys..)There's alot of "argumentative" women that like the drama of fights because it somehow makes them happy. But seriously, when there is a issue going on, she wants to dissipate the stuck energy around it. If that means in 20 different ways she asks you the same exact question about the same exact event, she will. Not until you kill yourself, but until she feels better.
What you probably shoudlnt do: Get over it, I don’t have time to listen, get to the point...just toss that in the box of things you probably shouldnt even mention. Not even a little bit.
What she digs: Listen without trying to find a point or solution (even thats our main right side of the brain way). Just let her get it off her chest..head, calves, shins, elbow, etc.. If infinite conversation drives you crazy or you don’t have a lot of time to be the confidant today, let her know what time you do have and give her the semi-divided.
What she cant make heads or tails of: That men take what is said literally. Face value if you will. Quite often we find females sorting things out and saying the same things over and over confusing and frustrating because women contradict themselves while thinking out loud..
God speed Gentleman.
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